Monday, March 27, 2006

Follow up

I was thinking all day about the post I added last night. I especially was thinking about how important it is to demonstrate the kinds of behaviors for your children that you hope that they pick up some day. And I REALLY don't mean this to say I think parents all need to be perfect human beings when little eyes are on them. Mostly what I mean is that even when we aren't perfect, we can demonstrate to our children how to say "I'm sorry" or "I was wrong". I find myself using these words with Iris on a pretty regular basis, cause heck, I AM wrong alot.

As a young adult, I remember a really important moment I had with my father. My teen years were pretty rough, for all sorts of reasons. I had wonderful parents, but they didn't know what to do about the struggles I faced. They often made poor choices about how to "handle" me simply because they really didn't know any better, or perhaps were pretty scared. At any rate, one afternoon my father told me he was sorry. He was sorry for not knowing what to do and not handling the situation better. It was an incredible moment for us. We grew much closer.

I don't want to lose out on moments with Iris where I can grow as a mother and where my relationship with her grows, as well. I don't want her to be a young adult and have to muster up the courage to reconcile all the time we lost.

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