Sunday, June 11, 2006

Oh, the things I learn

Last week I aquired a big tub full of old issues of Parenting and Parents magazine. I am in serious heavan, as I LOVE reading magazines. I used to subscribe to a bunch, but now don't really have the money to. Sigh.

So, I'm learning all sorts of interesting things from these magazines. Like how to ease tantrums, put the romance back in my marraige and that (suprise!) most sicknesses can be avoided by stringent hand washing. The most suprising thing, by far, that I have learned is that in a poll, more parents would rather sleep with their pets than their own children. I know that I live in a bubble of parents who actually welcome their children in to their bed, but this was a saddening statistic to read. Okay, so Parents isn't the end-all, be-all of information, but still. It made me sad.

I have also discovered something good over the past few nights-- and that is, Iris is a more sound sleeper than I thought she was! I've been up trying to hack up a lung for several nights straight and Miss Iris sleeps right through it. Through the hacking and nose blowing and getting up to pee and get water. She snoozes away. I have been worried about how co-sleeping will work with Iris and the new babe, but now wonder if maybe it will be easier than I thought. I just don't want to interupt Iris's sleep more than needed.

Oh, and on one other note, I've become less convinced Eloise is the best name for our new baby. One of my big naming issues is wanting to choose a name that is very unpopular (i.e. if it's in the top 1000 names for the last decade, it's not for us!) So, Eloise fits the bill, but unfortunately the totally adorable nickname, Ellie, doesn't. It's been in the top 200 the last few years. Ella, another name obviously very similar, was number 22 last year! Ugh! Yes, I'm obviously a huge freak, but these are the things that keep me awake at night. I had no idea both of these variations were so popular until I started reading this huge stack of magazines. It seems like every third article someone has a daughter named Ella or Ellie. Can I name my daughter Eloise and keep it at that? Will everyone just try to shorten it anyways? Oh, the dilemma! Beatrice is starting to sound better and better to me, now.

11 comments:

  1. I actually have a subscription to the horrid Parents magazine (it was free so I took it) and I will admit that I origianlly started reading it just to have a good laugh at those crazy mainstrem parents out there who gasp at such things as toddler breastfeeding, co-sleeping, and actually not using such discipline tactics such as "time-outs". But here's something I find as a bad side effect of reading the magazine...some of it starts to get in my head and on those days when I doubt myself as a mom and how we're raising Jack (in a very AP, non-coercive way, extrememly responsive, etc) those things I read about start to creep in and make me wonder if I really do have it all figured out. Of course I get over it and am really confident most of the time that we're doing the best we can. But I find a lot of the info Parents magazine (and the like) contains tends to be more in the parents' best interest and not the child's...making life more convenient for the adults and less respectful and sensitve to the needs of infants and young children. What helps me more is to immerse myself in information thats supportive of our parenting style and gives me strength on those days when I'm not quite so confident. I LOVE Mothering magazine for that reason...I get the support I need and don't feel quite so "freakish"!

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  2. You could be like me and constantly correct people and say that her name is "Eloise" not "Ellie" just like I am CONSTANTLY (aargh) saying, "Her name is Emma June, not Emma". Of course, I'm constantly tell people my name is Julia not Julie and it never seems to make any difference. People just don't listen. I seem to be rambling ... what was the question again?

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  3. Oooo, I love Mothering, as well! Honestly, I learn nothing from Parents or Parenting, but it's like candy for my brain :)

    I was actually found that although these types of magazines don't really support the way I choose to parent, there are some pleasantly suprising AP-like moments in them!

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  4. Ah yes, I could always do the never-ending name correction. Sigh. I know a few mamas who have to do that, it's not fun!

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  5. Omgosh, I love your blog!
    Great writing and I can soooo relate

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  6. My husband and I have extremely common names (Michael and Sara), so we set out to choose something different, but not too different for our daughter, but now it seems like there are girls named Maia everywhere, and we're asking ourselves, "how could we not have known?" Our second, though, I haven't heard a single other Ilana.

    kim: When I browse a mainstream parenting mag, I end up asking myself if there's something wrong with me. Why am I so different?

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  7. Maia is such a pretty name! Actually, I think alot of the "popular" girl's names are quite lovely. I just like to be different :) (or some would say difficult!)

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  8. I agree with you on the different names. My first son (Samuel) is #30 in the year he was born and my second (Atley) has never been on ANY list, EVER. Most name books don't even have it. However, I saw it on a web nursery the other day as a GIRL name :(.

    I do the constant name correction: "It's Samuel, not Sam," and I've found that after three years, it's not such a big deal. Like after he's three people give up on changing his name or something.

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  9. How about Louise instead of Eloise? (Of course I am partial to Louise because it is my middle name & my daughter's middle name.) I love talking baby names!...and have found a really great baby name blog, which unfortunately went to ivillage, but has a very useful tool called baby name voyager... where you can type in your name choice and see it's "rank" in the last 120 years or so. Too bad I didn't discover it before I named my now 4 year-old Ethan- there's an Ethan at every corner! Good luck to you- and by the way I think Eloise is lovely.

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  10. I don't think you can completely control what folks call your daughter. It's out of your hands. By the time she is twelve her friends may be calling her Elle, Ellie, Ella, Lo, Izie or something completely off the wall. For three years as a teenager everyone called me Sam, which has no relation to my actual name. And having an unusual name and a more popular nickname could give her the benefits of both.

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