We're three months in to the school year and Iris is still crying about going to school. Seriously, any advice. Any at all. I'll take it.
All I can get out of her is that she misses me when she's at school. I don't know how to fix that. At first I sent her to school with a picture of the two of us on a necklace but the teacher was noticing it was almost making it harder, as Iris would look at it throughout the day and be reminded of missing me. She didn't wear it that many times, and hasn't asked to wear it again. Not really sure if reminding her of us during the day is good or bad, then. Picture in the lunch? Note in the lunch?
I would love to volunteer to help out more in the class when it is needed but the teacher and I are both worried that Iris will grow to expect it and then the days when I'm not there will be even harder. Sigh. I was supposed to volunteer for a trip to the retirement home last week, and was really looking forward to it, but it got cancelled at the last minute because too many kids in the class had been sick and were coughing/sneezing. I was worried it was going to break Iris's heart but she didn't mention it at the end of the day.
Apparently lunch is getting hard again. She used to cry at lunch time when she first started kindergarten. It sounds like lunch is getting difficult again. Tonight Iris ran downstairs when I was doing laundry, absolutely sobbing because she didn't want to eat lunch at school. I said, well, you don't have to (was the right answer?) and then she said her teacher makes her eat it. Again, I don't know what's right. Yes, she should be eating lunch, because it's a six hour school day, but maybe giving her the choice for a few days will help her reach that conclusion on her own instead of saying she has to? I am going to talk to the teacher and see.
Iris always starts inhaling her lunch left-overs as soon as I pick her up, so I do think she's hungry. Maybe her nerves are making her stomach not feel very hungry? I know exactly what that's like, it's awful, and does make it very difficult to eat even if you should be.
She also complained that she doesn't have enough time at home, which some days she doesn't. We leave almost right after school to pick up Matt from work three days a week, which is about an hour, on average, round trip. Then we get home, make/eat dinner, sit and watch tv, then start getting ready for bed.
The one thing I've been doing is reading quite a bit at bedtime. Sometimes we read for up to 45 minutes, which we all love.
It's all too difficult.