Welcome to the January Carnival of Natural Parenting: Parenting resolutions!
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month we're writing about how we want to parent differently — or the same — in the New Year. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
This is my very first time joining in a blogging carnival. When I heard about Hobo Mama’s idea of starting a carnival about natural parenting I thought it fit right in with what I’m already doing in my daily life and blogging about on an admittedly erratic basis.
If you’re new to my blog because of this carnival, let me briefly introduce myself: I’m a mama of two girls, 3 and 5 ½. My “cred” in natural parenting comes from extended breastfeeding, co-sleeping, homebirthing, baby-wearing, relatively green-living and working at being a mindful, gentle parent.
This month’s topic is Parenting Resolutions. I do consider my parenting skills a work in progress, so this is perfect for me. My children challenge me every day. I am constantly struggling to come up with creative solutions to problems and to figure out the best way to help my daughters realize their full potential. To this end, my parenting resolutions are to attend at least one parenting class and follow through the counseling sessions I’ve set up for my 5 year old. Exciting, huh?
I’ve always been a “parent from the heart” kind of mama, but the reality is, my heart doesn’t often know the answer. The reality is, I need help—I need a class. Honestly, I’d go to every class under the sun if our budget allowed for it. Specifically, what I’m planning on attending are a series of classes called Sanity Circus, which are put on by the Puget Sound Adlerian Society and is “a traveling course for parents who want more respectful, cooperative, and, yes, more joyful relationships with children.” I would say that description fits me to a “T”. Part of my resolution is not only to attend this course, but to put its ideas to work in our household.
As far as setting up counseling sessions for my five year old, I vacillate between feeling like “oh my god I’ve already ruined my child and she’s only 5!” and “wow, check out how aware and loving I am to get her help before she turns in to a total and complete nutcase!”. Most of the time I’m somewhere in between, but it’s still a difficult realization of what I’m facing. I’ve written about my 5 year old’s anxiety issues several times here on my blog, lamenting, complaining, and crying about what she is going through. Finally I reached the point where I needed outside help with her. She is too scared, too sad and too burdened for a 5 year old and, although I can relate, I can’t fix her with the tools I already have.
Starting this week she and I are going to be attending regular counseling sessions with the goal of easing her anxiety and teaching me the tools I will need to not only support her, but to ease my own anxiety, as well. Finding the counselor was my first step, now we need to attend the sessions and follow through on the work.
I look forward to looking back on 2010 as being the year I found some much-needed answers to help our family operate with more love, respect and joy.
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
• To Yell or Not to Yell — The Adventures of Lactating Girl
• It Is All About Empathy: Nurturing a Toddler's Compassion Potential — Baby Dust Diaries
• To my babies: this year… — BluebirdMama
• Mindfully Loving My Children — Breastfeeding Moms Unite!
• January Carnival of Natural Parenting: Resolutions — Code Name: Mama
• Imperfect Mother — Consider Eden
• Resolutions — Craphead (aka Mommy)
• FC Mom's Parenting Resolutions 2010 — FC Mom
• What’s in a Resolution? — Happy Mothering
• January Carnival of Natural Parenting: Parenting resolutions — Hobo Mama
• Natural Parenting Resolutions — Little Green Blog
• This year, I will mostly... — Look Left of the Pleiades
• Parenting Resolutions — The Mahogany Way
• I Resolve to Breastfeed In Public More Often — mama2mama tips
• Moving to Two Kids — Megna the Destroyer
• Use Love — Momopoly
• My parenting resolutions — Musings of a Milk Maker
• Talkin' 'bout My Resolutions — Navelgazing
• Parenting Resolutions — One Starry Night
• Invitations, not resolutions — Raising My Boychick
• No more multitasking during kid time — The Recovering Procrastinator
• I need to slow down, smell those roses AND the poopy diapers — Tales of a Kitchen Witch Momma
• Resolutely Parenting in 2010 — This Is Worthwhile