I got up and left the room, and as I closed the door behind me I heard a voice say, "are you Eloise's mom?" and I turned and looked I saw a woman who I recognized as the mom of one of Eloise's classmates. "I am, hi!" I spoke, thinking to myself, oh, is this person going to ask us for a play date? Wouldn't that be nice?
"I am so-and-so's mom" (protecting the kid's name here) she began. I smiled. "So-and-so said that Eloise hit her in the eye with a spoon on Tuesday." She lifted her hand to her left eye for emphasis. My heart sunk. Clearly a play date wasn't on her mind. "Oh," I replied. "I am so sorry. Is so-and-so okay?" She answered yes, she was, and continued, "I told so-and-so that I would tell you." At this point I had no idea what to say, so I paused for a second before speaking. "Did Ms. Teacher know about it?" I asked. She said yes. "Oh, good. I'm really sorry." With that we both went our separate ways.
You may (or may not, who knows) be surprised to learn that this was the first time that I have ever been approached by one of Eloise's classmates about something E did to their child in school. I suppose it's surprising in that of the multitude of crimes Eloise has committed against her little friends in school, another parent has never come to me about it. The teacher comes to me about some of it (most of it? I have no idea. I didn't know about this particular one.) and I feel like that is enough for me.
The truth is, I'm not there. I don't know what happened. I don't know what my kid did to yours, or your kid did to mine-- did your kid push mine first? Give her the evil eye? Or maybe nothing, maybe my kid went off the handle completely unprovoked (hey, it's been known to happen) but at any rate, we'll never really know.
But I don't really know what this other parent wanted from me, if anything. Maybe she just wanted me to know? My kids have been hurt by other kids countless times at school, and it never once occurred to me to go up to the other kid's parent and tell them about it, because I leave it in the school's hands. I wasn't there, I don't really know what happened.
Have you ever approached a parent of a classmate's of your child? What was your intention? Have you ever been approached? How did you respond?